Monthly Archives: March 2018

BLAME OR LOVE

it is hard to read the newspaper
or listen to the news on radio or tv,
or even read facebook posts,
go to seminars, listen to people talk
without hearing blame.
for goodness sake,
i do not need to go outside of my own head
to hear chastisements of blame running on a regular cycle.
for those of you who know me,
i try my best to show up transparently,
to be vulnerable,
to share my point of view not as a teacher
but as someone who is figuring stuff out along the way
and so it is with that in mind
that i write this post today.
 
i write this from my heart
knowing full well it might be misunderstood
and yet, when the soul speaks,
after all these years,
i know better than to not listen.
 
it doesn’t take a visionary to see times are changing.
we are finding our voice.
movements like The Women’s March, #MeToo and The March for Our Lives (by the children)
have given voice to those who have felt voiceless.
it is long overdue and important for everyone to be heard.
i am entirely for this
for no one is above the law.
these movements have allowed
“we, the people” to speak out.
so it is with the utmost respect for the change that is happening that i continue.
the question is no longer do we have a voice
but rather how can our voice make a difference.
to me, one of the most important changes that is happening
is the shift from the patriarchal model to the matriarchal model.
what has been a male dominated society is now shifting
to one in which woman will and are needed to lead.
and the model of feminine leadership can not be
male leadership in a feminine body.
it might need to transition this way, but if we remain caught in this model
we will not have grown, we have just become another animal farm culture.
it is time for the male dominance to end
time for right and wrong to no longer be blamed but loved
i can tell you from my point of view, when i am blamed, i get defensive
when i am loved, i melt.
the way of the masculine is to fight
whereas the way of the feminine is to love
and our world is in desperate need of the feminine way.
this is the shift that is coming
and in order for this to take place,
we must find the new paradigm
rather than just model the old paradigm tha this brought us to this problem.
blame is the old paradigm
love is the new paradigm
and it is time for us to listen to one another
to help each other see what is right by lovingly modelling this behaviour
rather than by fighting (which is the masculine model) and blaming.
i know the pain that we have all felt
and i know how important it is to feel heard and to stop this behaviour
so that others do not have to experience it.
i understand the world of “YOU vs. ME”
i have lived in this world and know it very well
but i believe there is a new world that is wanting to be born
and i ask this simple question,
how would we act in a “WE” world not a “YOU vs. ME” world?
how would WE as one entity respond?
who would blame who when WE are the same?
and how could WE move forward?
please share your comments below.